Comments on: Promises http://DesperatelySeekingSanity.com/2008/09/13/promises I love giving home made gifts...which one of the kids would you like? Fri, 12 Mar 2010 19:00:31 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 hourly 1 By: Annabelle@Christian Momma http://DesperatelySeekingSanity.com/2008/09/13/promises/comment-page-1#comment-8888 Annabelle@Christian Momma Tue, 16 Sep 2008 01:31:23 +0000 http://www.desperatelyseekingsanity.com/?p=947#comment-8888 I think that's great. My nieces/nephews all have those and I will probably talk with my own boys about it. I know it's not all about the ring, the ring is just a symbol of their commitment. Annabelle@Christian Mommas last blog post..<a href="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ChristianMomma/~3/390671529/" rel="nofollow">My dad</a> I think that’s great. My nieces/nephews all have those and I will probably talk with my own boys about it. I know it’s not all about the ring, the ring is just a symbol of their commitment.

Annabelle@Christian Mommas last blog post..My dad

]]> By: Cathy | Mommy Motivation http://DesperatelySeekingSanity.com/2008/09/13/promises/comment-page-1#comment-8886 Cathy | Mommy Motivation Mon, 15 Sep 2008 23:32:22 +0000 http://www.desperatelyseekingsanity.com/?p=947#comment-8886 Hmmm. Lots of food for thought here. Do you really get questioned about waiting? I suppose around the youth group you do. I can't even imagine dating in today's day and age. I was watching a sitcom last night and the girl was mocked for not having sex after the 3rd date. Having to DEFEND herself for her abstinence thus far. It is a crazy world! Something THAT intimate should simply be saved until the RIGHT time. And now, we can't even be sure with a marriage certificate if it is RIGHT - in other words if that person is going to be true to their vows to love and cherish and stay faithful... But I suppose it is as close as we can get to RIGHT. Being married for more than 13 years I haven't had to think about this issue. Well sort of. Although my children were made and produced in wedlock, I wonder if my sex life would be hounded by images of my past if I had stayed faithful to myself and waited til marriage? I believe that it is more than just our bodies united in love making. It is something deeper. It is only a matter of time before we start to admit this. Okay, this is turning into a post of its own... I'm off to rant and rave on my own blog! :) thanks for the great topic. Hmmm. Lots of food for thought here. Do you really get questioned about waiting? I suppose around the youth group you do. I can’t even imagine dating in today’s day and age. I was watching a sitcom last night and the girl was mocked for not having sex after the 3rd date. Having to DEFEND herself for her abstinence thus far. It is a crazy world! Something THAT intimate should simply be saved until the RIGHT time. And now, we can’t even be sure with a marriage certificate if it is RIGHT – in other words if that person is going to be true to their vows to love and cherish and stay faithful… But I suppose it is as close as we can get to RIGHT.

Being married for more than 13 years I haven’t had to think about this issue. Well sort of. Although my children were made and produced in wedlock, I wonder if my sex life would be hounded by images of my past if I had stayed faithful to myself and waited til marriage? I believe that it is more than just our bodies united in love making. It is something deeper. It is only a matter of time before we start to admit this.

Okay, this is turning into a post of its own… I’m off to rant and rave on my own blog! :) thanks for the great topic.

]]> By: Krissi from Krississippi http://DesperatelySeekingSanity.com/2008/09/13/promises/comment-page-1#comment-8878 Krissi from Krississippi Mon, 15 Sep 2008 06:10:18 +0000 http://www.desperatelyseekingsanity.com/?p=947#comment-8878 <i>"So you can call me a freak, a born-again virgin, what ever it is that you want."</i> I'd call you brave to take on such a commitment, especially being an adult who obviously knows (first hand) the consequences that can come from sex. I'd call you honest for making a commitment to yourself for reasons YOU hold true and dear. I'd call you RIGHT because, hey, it's your body and your decision and who am I (or anyone else?) to judge you for your choice. K2 Krissi from Krississippis last blog post..<a href="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/krississippi/~3/392917593/" rel="nofollow">2008/09/13 Twitter Tweets</a> “So you can call me a freak, a born-again virgin, what ever it is that you want.”

I’d call you brave to take on such a commitment, especially being an adult who obviously knows (first hand) the consequences that can come from sex.

I’d call you honest for making a commitment to yourself for reasons YOU hold true and dear.

I’d call you RIGHT because, hey, it’s your body and your decision and who am I (or anyone else?) to judge you for your choice.

K2

Krissi from Krississippis last blog post..2008/09/13 Twitter Tweets

]]> By: Single Mom Seeking http://DesperatelySeekingSanity.com/2008/09/13/promises/comment-page-1#comment-8858 Single Mom Seeking Sun, 14 Sep 2008 14:33:08 +0000 http://www.desperatelyseekingsanity.com/?p=947#comment-8858 Thanks for this open, honest post. Good for you for sticking with your guns. I'm gonna link back to this. Thanks! Thanks for this open, honest post. Good for you for sticking with your guns.

I’m gonna link back to this. Thanks!

]]> By: Ann G http://DesperatelySeekingSanity.com/2008/09/13/promises/comment-page-1#comment-8856 Ann G Sun, 14 Sep 2008 04:11:34 +0000 http://www.desperatelyseekingsanity.com/?p=947#comment-8856 What a wonderful example you are setting for your kids as well as the kids in the youth group. I pray that your kids "listen" to your example and make the decision that you have made, to follow the example of the Bible and the one Jesus has set out for us. Ann Gs last blog post..<a href="http://ann-shesgonnablow.blogspot.com/2008/09/new-update-on-dad.html" rel="nofollow">New Update on Dad</a> What a wonderful example you are setting for your kids as well as the kids in the youth group. I pray that your kids “listen” to your example and make the decision that you have made, to follow the example of the Bible and the one Jesus has set out for us.

Ann Gs last blog post..New Update on Dad

]]> By: Sally Kuhlman http://DesperatelySeekingSanity.com/2008/09/13/promises/comment-page-1#comment-8854 Sally Kuhlman Sun, 14 Sep 2008 02:43:46 +0000 http://www.desperatelyseekingsanity.com/?p=947#comment-8854 Here is my 2 cents on the whole Promise Ring thing... Instead of a ring I think open and honest conversations are the best route. I let my kids know I want them to wait until they are older. I don't advocate waiting til marriage because I think it is important to try on the merchandise before you buy it. But I also don't advocate being sexually active in high school. My kids know I want them to wait until at least college. However, I am very open about sex and have made sure to do my best to make sure they realize the potential consequences. I especially like telling the horror stories of my friends in high school (STDs, teen pregnancies, abortions, date rapes, etc)in detail. I tell the stories and I tell the truth so they know bad stuff really can happen around sex. But I also tell them the good stuff and want them to know that sex is not a bad thing, that it can be a beautiful wonderful way to connect with another human when it is with someone you love who truly cares about you. More than just waiting for marriage I talk about the importance of finding someone who respects, honors, loves and adores you. To me it is not about having sex or not, it's about finding the person who you truly connect with who truly honors your existence. By the way, around here before the celebrity thing Promise Rings stood for a promise to be committed, to be monogamous. One more thing, if one of my kids decides they want to wear a promise ring and make that commitment that is fine with me too. Here is my 2 cents on the whole Promise Ring thing…

Instead of a ring I think open and honest conversations are the best route. I let my kids know I want them to wait until they are older. I don’t advocate waiting til marriage because I think it is important to try on the merchandise before you buy it. But I also don’t advocate being sexually active in high school. My kids know I want them to wait until at least college. However, I am very open about sex and have made sure to do my best to make sure they realize the potential consequences. I especially like telling the horror stories of my friends in high school (STDs, teen pregnancies, abortions, date rapes, etc)in detail. I tell the stories and I tell the truth so they know bad stuff really can happen around sex. But I also tell them the good stuff and want them to know that sex is not a bad thing, that it can be a beautiful wonderful way to connect with another human when it is with someone you love who truly cares about you.

More than just waiting for marriage I talk about the importance of finding someone who respects, honors, loves and adores you. To me it is not about having sex or not, it’s about finding the person who you truly connect with who truly honors your existence.

By the way, around here before the celebrity thing Promise Rings stood for a promise to be committed, to be monogamous.

One more thing, if one of my kids decides they want to wear a promise ring and make that commitment that is fine with me too.

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